Some Birthday Fun..

Thanks Layla for my Birthday hair..:o)

Happy 10th. Birthday Gabi...

Happy 10th Birthday sweet Gabi .....So hard to believe that you are 10 years old and how fast these years went by.. You are beautiful inside and out with a huge giving / loving heart.. We are so proud of you and how well you are doing in school ...you are a great big sister...an awesome friend to all your class mates and friends... a wonderful grand daughter to Ga and PaPa .and you are a very precious daughter and we will always be here for you ....and alwyas love you..Big Hugs and Kisses..

Don't Put Your Children in the Middle During Divorce..

.PERFECT ARTICLE ..WELL written by Family Counseling & Mediation Center... from the heart and words of a child ..

Don't Put Your Children in the Middle During Divorce.....!



Do not talk badly about my other parent... (This make ...me feel torn apart! It also makes me feel
bad about myself!)

Do not talk about my other parent’s friends or relatives... (Let me care for someone even if
you don’t.)

Do not talk about the divorce or other grown-up stuff... (This makes me feel sick. Please
leave me out of it!)

Do not talk about money or child support.... (This makes me feel guilty or like I’m a possession
instead of your kid.)

Do not make me feel bad when I enjoy my time with my other parent.... (This makes me afraid
to tell you things.)


Do not block my visits or prevent me from speaking to my other parent on the
phone... (This makes me very upset.)

Do not interrupt my time with my other parent by calling too much or by planning
my activities during our time together...

Do not argue in front of me or on the phone when I can hear you..! (This just turns my
stomach inside out.)

Do not ask me to spy for you when I am at my other parent’s home.... (This makes me feel
disloyal and dishonest.)

Do not ask me to keep secrets from my other parent.... (Secrets make me feel anxious.)

Do not ask me questions about my other parent’s life or about our time together.... (This
makes me feel uncomfortable. So just let me tell you.)

Do not give me verbal messages to deliver to my other parent.... (I end up feeling anxious
about their reaction. So please just call them, leave them a message at work or put a note in the
mail.)

Do not send written messages with me or place them in my bag.... (This also makes me
uncomfortable.)

Do not blame my other parent for the divorce or for things that go wrong in your
life.... (This really feels terrible! I end up wanting to defend them from your attack.

Sometimes it makes me feel sorry for you and that makes me want to protect you. I just
want to be a kid, so please, please…stop putting me into the middle!)

Do not treat me like an adult; it causes way too much stress for me.... (Please find a
friend or a therapist to talk to.)

Do not ignore my other parent or sit on opposite sides of the room during my
school or sports activities.... (This makes me very sad and embarrassed. Please act like
parents and be friendly, even if it is just for me.)

Do let me take items to my other home as long as I can carry them back and forth....
(Otherwise it feels like you are treating me as a possession.)

Do not use guilt to pressure me to love you more and do not ask me where I want to live.

Do realize that I have two homes, not just one. (It doesn’t matter how much time I spend there.)

Do let me love both of you and see each of you as much as possible! Be flexible even when
it is not part of our regular schedule.

THANKS, your loving child