Thursday, October 11, 2012
Posted by Doreen at 9:25 PM
Thursday, October 4, 2012
.PERFECT ARTICLE ..WELL written by Family Counseling & Mediation Center... from the heart and words of a child ..
Don't Put Your Children in the Middle During Divorce.....!
Do not talk badly about my other parent... (This make ...me feel torn apart! It also makes me feel
bad about myself!)
Do not talk about my other parent’s friends or relatives... (Let me care for someone even if
Do not talk about the divorce or other grown-up stuff... (This makes me feel sick. Please
leave me out of it!)
Do not talk about money or child support.... (This makes me feel guilty or like I’m a possession
instead of your kid.)
Do not make me feel bad when I enjoy my time with my other parent.... (This makes me afraid
to tell you things.)
Do not block my visits or prevent me from speaking to my other parent on the
phone... (This makes me very upset.)
Do not interrupt my time with my other parent by calling too much or by planning
my activities during our time together...
Do not argue in front of me or on the phone when I can hear you..! (This just turns my
stomach inside out.)
Do not ask me to spy for you when I am at my other parent’s home.... (This makes me feel
disloyal and dishonest.)
Do not ask me to keep secrets from my other parent.... (Secrets make me feel anxious.)
Do not ask me questions about my other parent’s life or about our time together.... (This
makes me feel uncomfortable. So just let me tell you.)
Do not give me verbal messages to deliver to my other parent.... (I end up feeling anxious
about their reaction. So please just call them, leave them a message at work or put a note in the
Do not send written messages with me or place them in my bag.... (This also makes me
Do not blame my other parent for the divorce or for things that go wrong in your
life.... (This really feels terrible! I end up wanting to defend them from your attack.
Sometimes it makes me feel sorry for you and that makes me want to protect you. I just
want to be a kid, so please, please…stop putting me into the middle!)
Do not treat me like an adult; it causes way too much stress for me.... (Please find a
friend or a therapist to talk to.)
Do not ignore my other parent or sit on opposite sides of the room during my
school or sports activities.... (This makes me very sad and embarrassed. Please act like
parents and be friendly, even if it is just for me.)
Do let me take items to my other home as long as I can carry them back and forth....
(Otherwise it feels like you are treating me as a possession.)
Do not use guilt to pressure me to love you more and do not ask me where I want to live.
Do realize that I have two homes, not just one. (It doesn’t matter how much time I spend there.)
Do let me love both of you and see each of you as much as possible! Be flexible even when
it is not part of our regular schedule.
Posted by Doreen at 1:29 PM
Sunday, July 8, 2012
mini vacation was a day at Adventure Dome Theme park, Shark Reef Aqaurium, Freemont street lights and entertainment, Volcano show, Pirate Show, Pool and swim time.. lots of walking and trams, Rollor coaster at New York New York, and lots of street entertainment.. the girls had a great time and deserved some fun away from home for all the hard work during the school year..
Posted by Doreen at 3:39 PM